Whistle Stop, November 16-18, 2018

Almost six months after moving across the country, I returned to the Midwest to reconnect with friends at Whistle Stop, the dance event that everyone should go to because it’s ridiculously cheap, thanks to generous subsidizing from Purdue University. My friends at Purdue Night Train generously accepted my offer to DJ, so I picked up band breaks for Naomi and Her Handsome Devils on Saturday night.


Songs 1-7 comprised my first band break. Jimmie Lunceford’s “Honest and Truly” is new to my library and has a perky melody that I really enjoy – chunky trumpet and trombone work interspersed with gentle sailing saxophones. The vocals are a little cheesy, but I think it’s fun to hear what “pop music” of the era sounded like.

Songs 8-13 were my second band break, and I tried to capture a more energetic vibe, using “Windy City Hop” from Slim Gaillard and “When You’re Smiling” by Louis Armstrong back to back. I don’t understand why I don’t hear “When You’re Smiling” more in the dance scene – it has an easily recognizable melody and a strong rhythm, and it’s super danceable – especially with Louis Armstrong blowing that trumpet! I also included a moment of sweetness and a different feel with Sarah Vaughan’s “Nice Work If You Can Get It” – the accompaniment is mostly piano, and midway through it transitions into a dope saxophone solo, but the overall feel is still light and lovely.

Songs 14-18 came after the band finished up and everyone got ready to leave and go to the late night venue across town, so I mostly just played what I really like to hear at the end of the night. Of course that included the muted tones of “Steppin’ Out With My Baby” by Peter Liu and the Pollcats, which I think is the best song off their new record Count On Lindy – well, maybe it’s tied for best with “Wham Rebop Boom Bam.”

Now that I’m in California, I may be flying to events more often – aside from all the events in San Francisco (so many), most of the events I want to go aren’t driving distance. Maybe I’ll have to write a post about how to fly to a dance event, once I pick up some tips of the trade!

And before I go, here’s a TV version of a tune I ran across randomly in my library while writing this post and really enjoyed:

Midtown Stomp, October 26, 2018

One of the things I really like about being a swing DJ is that, even though I’ve cultivated a collection of hundreds of songs, I only get 20-30 songs each set to work with, so I’m always trying to combine them in new and creative ways. I had a couple of fun juxtapositions in this Midtown Stomp set to share!


One great pairing came early on – “This Can’t Be Love” by Joe Williams with Count Basie, which has a smooth and polished sound, followed by the much more free-flowing energy of “Windy City Hop” by Slim Gaillard (and Slam Stewart).

Another fun transition was between “Jersey Bounce” by Peter Liu and the Pollcats, a modern band with a professional sound and soft piping saxophone and clarinet, and “Sing Me A Swing Song” by Benny Goodman and His Orchestra, a very peppy, very vintage piece.

Finally, I was so happy to play “Rag Mop” by Ralph Flanagan and His Orchestra. The first time I ever recall hearing the song “Rag Mop” was from a live band – #TrustInTheRuss? – at SwingIN 2017. I danced with Sonia Ortega to that song, and Sonia, who speaks Spanish primarily, sang along with every word! It was a wonderful dance, and I always think of it whenever I hear or play “Rag Mop.”

Midtown Stomp, September 14, 2018

I was so excited to DJ last night at my new home scene, Midtown Stomp of Sacramento! Some of my new friends at Midtown Stomp are members of the Midtown Stompers, Sacramento’s performance team, and as of two weeks ago, they have won the open team competition at Camp Hollywood for three years running. This year’s routine is at the bottom of this post!

Midtown Stomp 09-14-2018

Midtown Stomp has two DJs for each three hour Friday night dance, so we get an hour and a half-ish, which I love, because that lets me build up more of a flow than just an hour set, which often feels like it runs out too quickly!

A few new tunes here – “Look Out” and “Buck Dance Rhythm” by Slim Gaillard are both wonderful numbers that maintain the guitar-strumming perkiness of “Jump Session” at faster tempos. “Buck Dance Rhythm” also has an epic tap dance solo in the middle – I don’t know who it is, but I wish I did! “The Major and the Minor” by Lionel Hampton and “St. Louis Blues” by Alberta Hunter are also new to me, and they went over really well!

The towering climax of this set was definitely “Them There Eyes” by Ella Fitzgerald and Count Basie, which at 5:09 and 172 BPM, can be an exhausting song to dance to, so I usually fade it out around the 3:30 mark. However, as I watched the floor to assess how tired people looked, a small, informal jam circle crowded around the middle, as a group of maybe eight or ten people took turns stealing the center. They were having so much fun, and were so much fun to watch, I ended up letting “Them There Eyes” run all the way to the end (sorry, everyone else!).

I knew after that blast of energy I would need to reset the floor, so I picked a bold mood to do it with – “Swing Low, Sweet Chariot” by Jan Marie and the Mean Reds. It starts out with almost 40 seconds of slow intro, and then moves into a funky, synth-heavy rendition of the spiritual that got the whole floor moving! At around 11:30pm, that was cool to see.

Thank you so much for having me, Midtown Stomp! I look forward to DJing for you again soon!

Practical Ways to Make Lindy Hop Welcoming for LGBT+ Dancers

(Note: In this post I will use LGBT+, a shortened acronym, to refer to the LGBTQQIAP+ community. As someone who falls under the G, the Q, and the A, it is important to me to acknowledge that there are more letters in our beloved acronym than are sometimes convenient to spell out.) 

During my tenure as a Lindy Hopper, some of which was spent at an extremely conservative educational institution, I’ve become especially sensitive to and appreciative of scenes and events that go the extra mile to make the LGBT+ Lindy Hoppers feel safe and welcome. Here, I’d like to offer a compendium of tips and ideas I’ve compiled from my experiences, and from conversations with other LGBT+ dancers, to assist you in making your scene or event as queer-friendly as you can!

Making us feel welcome in class

We want to know that we can dance any role. All of your classes should open with a vocal acknowledgment from the instructors that anyone may dance any role. This may seem almost too obvious to say out loud, but I promise, this is really important – it makes us feel seen, and it makes us feel like we have the instructors’ support in case we experience discrimination from other dancers in class.

We want beginner classes to offer a non-gendered way to explore role preference. A great beginner class will include an exercise that involves really basic components of leading and following, like connecting with both hands in open position and practicing leading or following each other around the floor. I wish that the first Lindy Hop class I took had done this!

We want to have an easy way to identify our role preference in class. Please – please – do not ever start class by saying, “Okay, everyone partner up!” This makes it incredibly difficult to tell who’s doing which role, and I have often experienced the isolation of being the “odd one out” after all the women have partnered up with all the men. Instead, consider having everyone hold up an American Sign Language letter L or letter F with one hand to indicate which role they will be dancing for that class, and then let people partner up.

We want to feel acknowledged by the instructors’ language. Instructors, please take note – it is perfectly acceptable to use a gendered pronoun if you are talking about your teaching partner. For instance, you might say of the female follower teaching with you, “And then I put my right hand gently around her waist.” But when referring to your students, you should use gender-neutral pronouns instead. For instance, you could say, “Okay, leads, take your follower’s hand and lead them through the turn.”

Using “them,” which is a gender-neutral pronoun, makes space to acknowledge all the followers in the class – including those who may not identify as female. Here are a few more examples to help you think about which pronoun to use when referring to your teaching partner versus your students:

  • Partner: “I’m listening for him to pull me back into tandem position.”
  • Students: “Followers, make sure you listen for your leader to use their left hand to pull you back into tandem position.”
  • Partner: “She uses those four counts to do something expressive that she chooses.”
  • Students: “Leaders, remember to support your follower as they choose what to do during those four counts.”

But Mary, you sigh. I’ve definitely taught classes in which all the women were following and all the men were leading. Do I really have to do this then? 

That’s a great question! Remember that in the LGBT+ community, it isn’t always obvious from appearances which gender someone may identify with, or which pronouns they may prefer. I have several dance friends who are nonbinary and use they/them pronouns, but are often mistaken for women because of the way they look. Using gender-inclusive language helps to make sure everyone feels welcome, even if it doesn’t always seem necessary.

We want to see ourselves represented. If it is an option for your scene or event, it’s a really dope idea to have same-gender instructor pairs teach together. This lets people who dance a nontraditional role feel represented. Some of my favorite styling variations have come from taking classes from other women who lead!

Making us feel welcome at the dance

We want to be visible. If you really want to go the extra mile towards pronoun visibility, get those nametags that say “My name is:” and “My pronouns are:” on them, and encourage everyone – including cis people – to use them. This helps trans dancers feel included, and gives people an easy way to know what other people’s pronouns are!

We want to feel safe inside the bathroom we use. It may seem so simple as to be almost unnecessary, but it makes a huge difference to hang up a sign outside the restroom indicating that people of all genders are welcome. Here are a couple of creative examples I’ve seen at different venues and events:

  • Pirate Swing 2017 in Ann Arbor, Michigan hung up signs that said “And non-binary” under the “Men” and “Women” signs outside the bathrooms in their main venue.
  • The inimitable Mobtown Ballroom in Baltimore, Maryland has a sign in the hallway outside the bathrooms: “This bathroom has urinals. [arrow to the right] This one doesn’t. [arrow to the left] Use whichever bathroom suits you.”
  • The Switch 2018 in San Francisco, California hung signs outside each of the single-use bathrooms that said “All genders welcome in this bathroom – just be sure to wash your hands!”

A personal aside: at Pirate Swing 2017, I was at a place in my life where I was dressing very androgynously, and as a six foot tall person with short hair, I was frequently mistaken for a man. I can’t tell you how much it meant to me to see a sign on the bathroom that said “Women and non-binary.” It made me feel safe to enter the bathroom and know that no one would be startled or make a disparaging comment towards me. I do not identify as non-binary, but that simple sign still made a difference for me.

We want to be danced with! It truly makes all the difference when an organizer, instructor, or experienced dancer asks an LGBT+ dancer who is new to the scene for a dance. If you are in a position of power, influence, or experience, you have the opportunity to make this a reality!

We want others to ask about our preferences. I’ll admit it – I don’t always ask people their role preference. I know that some people want to only follow or only lead, and that’s fine. But if I’m not sure, or it’s a person I’ve never danced with before, or a friend with whom I will occasionally switch roles, I like to ask, “Is it all right if I lead?” or “Do you want to lead or follow?” If they seem unsure, offering up “Want to switch?” as an alternate option floats some people’s boats.

Because it can be easy for scene regulars to forget about doing this when they’re accustomed to dancing with the same people week after week, I really encourage instructors and organize to say, repeatedly and with a microphone if possible,  “Here in our scene/at our event, if we’re not sure of someone else’s role preference, we like to ask!”

A nonbinary friend of mine told me this:

As a queer person and often femme-presenting person, it’s super exciting when someone notices that I lead and asks me to, or even just asks if I lead or follow instead of assuming I follow.

Which I think is reason enough to encourage scene regulars to be observant of others’ preferences and to ask if they’re unsure!

We want to be jammed in a way that respects our preferences. Okay, but for real, guys – can we make it an all-the-time-everywhere rule that all birthday jams must be preceded by getting the people in the middle to specify which roles they dance? Again, ASL hand signs are useful here. I can’t tell you how many times I haven’t cut in to dance with someone because I haven’t been sure which roles they could dance, and I suspect the same has been true of the times I have been jammed in the past. Especially for dancers who are newer to the scene, being given the opportunity to communicate this information is a must!

We want a safe person to talk to if needed. I really like it when scenes or events explicitly appoint one of the organizers to be a “safety coordinator” or something similar, whose job is basically to be a really understanding and informed person who is the go-to contact point for code of conduct violations.

Making us feel welcome in competitions

We want the competition name to reflect what’s actually going on. As we all know, for random partnered competitions, “Jack and Jill” is out, and a variety of new monikers are in – my favorite is “Mix and Match.” Just be mindful when naming your competition of what the title will say to people who dance a nontraditional role, or identify with a nonbinary gender.

We want to know that everyone else in the competition will welcome us. In some Mix and Match competitions, I have occasionally felt worried that I would be paired with someone who didn’t want to dance with me because I am a female lead. Thankfully, this has never happened, but I would really like to it become standard operating procedure to put language somewhere – maybe in the competition sign-ups, maybe announced by the emcee – that part of a Mix and Match is dancing with whoever you are paired with, regardless of their gender. This is a nascent idea of mine, and I’d be interested to hear others’ thoughts on how to put this into practice – toss yours in the comments!

We want to know that alternative fashion choices are acceptable. Many Lindy Hoppers are into vintage fashion, which is awesome…but it’s also from the 1940s, and tends to dictate shirts and trousers for men, and skirts and blouses for women. I would love it if we all took a moment to acknowledge that people tend to get pretty dressed up for competitions, and for queer people, formal wear can be a confusing and awkward endeavor. (As dance photos of me continue to attest.) Just…do your best to love and support and cheer for people in the competition, no matter what they’re wearing.

Incorporating ambidancing into your scene

This is a topic I have been hesitant to address, because my own feelings about ambidancing – which means being able to both lead and follow – are complicated at best. Even though I am technically an ambidancer, because I know how to both lead and follow, I am much more comfortable identifying myself as someone who leads primarily, and I have mixed feelings about the efficacy of ambidancing as a class format. Regardless, ambidancing does have some wonderful benefits of which you should be aware.

Ambidancing encourages open-mindedness and flexibility throughout your scene. People who are accustomed to ambidancing as a concept, regardless of their sexuality or gender, are way more likely to be cool with asking about role preferences, dancing with people of their same gender, and generally fostering an LGBT-friendly community atmosphere.

Ambidancing helps people appreciate each other. I’ve noticed that when people try the role they don’t usually dance, they develop a great appreciation for people who do dance that role! This is a wonderful attitude to have, and I think everyone should try the other role, at the very least to gain a better understanding of it.

Ambidancing can be an avenue towards greater musicality. Based on my own experience, I believe that when you start to dance in both roles, you start to notice some similarities between them – the biggest one being that dancing with the music, and inserting styling, breaks, stops, and footwork that matches the music, is important no matter which role you’re in.

Ambidancing is a queer-friendly class format. If you want to relieve anxiety about gendered roles, making it unnecessary to choose between those roles is a solid option. I may not personally enjoy learning both roles in a single class, but I know that there are many people for whom this learning style is a perfect fit, and it may be a good experiment to add some ambidancing classes to your scene or event to gauge interest.

Switch dancing is incredibly fun! I didn’t hold this opinion quite so adamantly until I moved to California and went to the Switch, where I had some switch dances that absolutely blew my socks off. Switch dancing means that the partners trade leading and following back and forth throughout the dance. Even as someone who isn’t super into following, I find switch dancing to be a spontaneous, creative, and exhilarating experience, and I think it’s something everyone should experience!

My friends Calvin Lu and Sam Nguyen, who help organize the Switch, did this awesome showcase at Midwest Lindy Fest this year, and you should watch it! They are incredibly hardworking dancers and so much fun to watch!

If you’re interested in learning more about ambidancing, this podcast from Michael Jagger and Evita Arce is a good place to start: https://michaelandevita.com/018-ambi-dancing/

Thank you for reading this post! If you have additional tips or suggestions to share, please drop them in the comments! I would love to hear your thoughts.

The Switch, July 27-29, 2018

I had a total blast at The Switch in San Francisco last weekend. It was an opportunity for me to connect with the California ambidancing community, and explore San Francisco for the very first time – a double win!

The Switch is an incredible workshop weekend focused all around ambidancing, and the attendees were so friendly and fun to dance with. They were also very responsive to my music, which I appreciated.

I started out Friday evening playing a few songs after the community panel on ambidancing, giving the band a chance to sound check. I chose the first four tunes in the list below to start out the evening – “Jacquet Bounce” by Illinois Jacquet and His All Stars is new to my library, and I was so glad the expressive tenor saxophone from Jacquet picked up the floor!

Switch 2018-07-27 band breaks

My first band break started out with “Sometimes I’m Happy” by Sarah Vaughan, which I love just because it’s fun to hear the lyrics that accompany the familiar melody. When Lori Taniguchi, the event emcee and resident sparkly unicorn (you probably think I am joking. I am not joking), complimented me on choosing a live recording that kept up the energy in the room, I just laughed and said I wished I had that cool of a reason to play it! Sometimes the tune that “just feels right” to me in the moment ends up suiting someone else’s taste for a completely different reason, which is always funny to me.

I was so pleased when someone came up to ask me about “Loose Wig” – “Of course it’s Lionel Hampton,” they said, “but what is it?” Its happy hand-clapping feel and unique melody catches everyone’s attention!

Switch 2018-07-27 late night

The above list was my “late night” set from 12-1am on Friday night, after the band finished. Lori and I had a good laugh over the song title “Celery Stalks At Midnight,” by Les Brown, and how it gave Lori the mental image of literal celery stalks in a row doing a side-step dance while waving their…leaves? It does have kind of a high stepping feel!

I also had the chance to play “As Long As You Live” by Maxine Sullivan, a delightful live recording that I just can’t stop listening to. Her energy is infectious and it fills the floor every time. And “Charlie Was A Sailor” by Lionel Hampton was a major hit with some balboa dancers and folks who wanted to take their fast Lindy for a spin.

A huge thanks goes to Calvin Lu and Sam Nguyen, who generously let me sleep in their apartment even though they were pulling eighteen hour days running around organizing the Switch. I certainly hope to come back next year!

Ella Fitzgerald’s Deep Cuts for Lindy Hop

Sometime last spring, a friend of mine, who also happens to be a jazz vocalist and a talented music producer, told me that she owned the Complete Ella Fitzgerald Songbooks on CD. I knew something magical was about to happen.

Hours of downloading later, my music library was populated with some of the most incredible swing music ever to grace the dance halls of New York. Ella Fitzgerald is a queen, y’all, and today we’re going to review some of my favorites among her lesser-known tunes.

Top Hat, White Tie and Tails, Ella Fitzgerald, 2:36, 152 BPM

This peppy Irving Berlin tune has some lovely modulations between major and minor sounds, and it has a sweet build up to a triumphant feel at the end. (I also get a private kick out of the fact that this song features a lady singing about a very dapper outfit indeed.)

While searching for this song on YouTube, I ran across this Polish tribute to Ella Fitzgerald for her 100th birthday. The big band sounds great, and I love the vocalist’s outfit!

Things Are Looking Up, Ella Fitzgerald, 2:35, 135 BPM

I’ll be honest, the band here sounds good, but they aren’t swinging quite as hard as some other dancing tunes. However, the lyrics are so bright and pretty, and the tone is so upbeat given the slower tempo, that I love having this song around to pick up an empty dance floor.

In A Mellow Tone, Ella Fitzgerald, 2:50, 133 BPM

Hey Mister Jesse recommended this album, Ella at Zardi’s, when it was released last year, and I like it a lot! This particular version of “In A Mellow Tone” features some dope scatting, and solid swinging rhythm from a piano-bass-drums trio.

Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall, Ella Fitzgerald and Count Basie, 3:21, 159 BPM

The saxophones and trumpet provide great accompaniment to this foot-patting song. The rhythm is super tight and easily audible, so it’s easy to dance to. (Thanks, Basie!)

Drop Me Off In Harlem, Ella Fitzgerald, 3:51, 118 BPM

This song was originally written by Duke Ellington, so it has all the swanky swing it can handle, while moving along at a tempo perfect for beginners or a late night. Before Ella comes on, it opens with some really wonderful trumpet and trombone solos.

The Lady Is A Tramp, Ella Fitzgerald, 2:45, 168 BPM

When you need an alternative to Frank Sinatra, I love this upbeat rendition of the popular tune “The Lady Is A Tramp.” The lyrics are clearly audible and so much fun, and the bass and horns thump along in grand style.

I Got Rhythm, Ella Fitzgerald, 2:23, 144 BPM

If I were ever cool enough to teach a solo jazz class, this is definitely a song I would use. It has consistently placed stops in the first few phrases that still have a light rhythm section going, which helps students to keep time. And it’s also a great choice for the dance floor!

Don’t Get Around Much Anymore, Ella Fitzgerald, 5:02, 84 BPM

Okay, this one isn’t strictly a Lindy Hop tune. But truly, if you ever need to warm up a blues floor, I can’t imagine anything sweeter than this crooner. The soft hi hat in the background keeps the beat, while Ella’s voice floats along and the piano adds some texture and rhythmic interest.

Dear Followers: A Letter From A Grateful Leader

Dear followers,

Thank you for being such incredible dancers. Every time I dance with each one of you, I am awed and inspired all over again by your magic. I’m reminded why I fell in love with swing in the first place.

Thank you for being gentle with me. I don’t naturally use a lot of tone or tension when I lead, and I always appreciate it when I feel you adjust the tension on your end to let me lead you in a more comfortable way.

Thank you for putting up with me in class. It’s a huge help to me when you honestly follow whatever I’m leading, even when it means you don’t get to practice your best form every time.

Thank you for helping me when I mess up. Thank you for saving that tuck turn, that tandem entrance, that swingout. Thank you for working around my uncertainty to meet the music with a beautiful movement, and for helping me feel confident enough to give you a better lead on my next try.

Thank you for having a sense of humor. The way you turn my mistakes into moments of hilarious appreciation for the weirdness of partnered dancing makes me glow inside.

Thank you for speaking up for yourself. Each time one of you has had the courage and grace to tell me that something isn’t working, I have grown as a dancer.

Thank you for giving me the answer when I don’t even know how to ask the question. I so often hear something in the music that I want to respond to, but I don’t know how, so I open a space – and you fill it up even more perfectly than I could have imagined. I don’t know how you’re so good at that. But you are, and I love it.

Thank you for letting me be playful. When I want to have a solo jazz break, or just mess around or do knee slaps for a full eight counts, you encourage me to explore those ideas by pouring energy and spontaneity into them. I love it when you do that.

Thank you for never treating me differently. I know there are many men who are stronger than I am, more self-confident, who have more endurance and energy. I sometimes wonder if you would rather be dancing with someone else. But your smiling face makes me forget that.

Thank you for loving me in my queerness. While that isn’t the entire reason that I lead, it is part of it, and I feel most loved when I am most visible. Thank you for calling me dapper and bold and handsome and striking. Thank you for allowing me to bring the masculine and feminine parts of myself to my dancing. Thank you for letting me fall in love with you, just a little bit, and for letting that make our dancing more beautiful.

Thank you for never holding back. So many of you have hugged me after our first dance together, have said amazingly kind things to me, have encouraged and loved me into the swing community – without expecting or asking for any acknowledgment of your own invaluable contribution to this dance. I am sorry for the times I have not been just as enthusiastic about you as you are about me. I am trying to do better.

Thank you for being you. Thank you for your energy, your flair, your styling, your incredible gosh dang how-do-they-do-that swivels, your creativity, your voice. Lindy Hop would be a sad dance if I were doing it alone. The next time we see each other, let’s dance, shall we?


A grateful leader

This Lindy Hopper Is Leaving Facebook

I’m leaving Facebook this week, just before I move to Sacramento to start a new job and join a whole new swing dance scene. Midtown Stomp, I’m coming for you!

My decision to leave Facebook was tricky, because Facebook is how I get a lot of information about dance events, and often how I contact organizers about DJing. However, I’ve decided that I would be better off without it, for the following reasons:

Facebook is an attention economy. It thrives by selling your attention to advertisers, who are then able to put advertisements in front of you as you scroll through the news feed.

Facebook, not me, controls what I see. Algorithms and personalized advertisements ensure that what I see on Facebook will be engaging for me, and keep me coming back for more. Which reminds me…

Facebook is intentionally addictive. Seeing new notifications activates dopamine centers in your brain, rewarding you every time you log on. It is really hard to stay off of Facebook, and that concerns me. I want to bring things into my life because I want them there – not because I’m addicted to them.

Liking and commenting are shallow forms of social interaction. I consistently find that Facebook interactions are of lower quality and produce less relational benefit than interactions that take place outside of social media.

The air is full of people. This is a line from one of my favorite books, Hamlet’s BlackBerry by William Powers, describing how – thanks to wireless Internet connections – we are never truly alone anymore. We are surrounded by people who can contact us at any time.

My ability to focus is in danger. Study after study after study has shown that Facebook and other social media platforms have detrimental effects on the human attention span. According to Cal Newport’s new book, Deep Work, checking Facebook (or any other distraction) for one minute decreases your ability to focus for the next twenty minutes!

My contentment is in danger. As with attention, study after study after study has found that checking social media causes people to feel less content with their own lives. After careful consideration, I’ve decided I’m okay with being less aware of what other people are doing, so that I can be more content with what I’m doing.

My personal information is not safe. I’m not exactly a privacy freak, as evinced by the availability of my real name, approximate location, and email address on this blog. However, it does freak me out that Facebook has access to so much information about me – and about billions of other people – and I’ve decided that housing my personal information solely on my own corner of the Internet, namely this blog, is a safer way to share information about myself and my adventures.

I want to build genuine relationships. I have consistently found that my strongest friendships are with people who text me, call me, email me, and video chat me on a regular basis. (I have a few who even write me letters!) Leaving Facebook will give me more time to invest in my relationships with them, while wasting less time on relationships I don’t really care about, with people I don’t really know.

My online presence is less impactful than my real-life presence. I’m concerned about the problem of “social media activism,” and sharing or retweeting about a problem while not doing anything about it. Leaving Facebook will force me to actually contribute towards solutions, instead of perpetuating the echo chamber of complacent awareness.

I don’t need, and can’t have, that many friends. Robin Dunbar is famous for discovering the Dunbar Number, which is the approximate number of meaningful relationships a person can cognitively maintain. For modern humans, our brains can manage about 150 relationships. Even though Facebook’s upper “friend” limit is 5,000 people, I know that there are only about 150 people on there that I really care about – and I can keep in touch with those 150 people without the help of a massive, monopolized company.

What do I want to be good at? I’ll be honest – “getting lots of likes on social media by posting cute photos and thought-provoking shortform writing” isn’t high on the list. I want to be a good dancer, a good conversationalist, a good psychology student, a good writer, a good reader, a good lover. All of these things require effort from me, not crowdsourced social affirmation.

Enjoying the real world. It’s not every day you get to move across the country! I’m looking forward to exploring Sacramento, the nearby city of San Francisco, and all they have to offer, without the pressure to share my experiences on Facebook. If my friends want to know how things are going, they can text or call me, and I’ll happily send them photos and updates – but only if they ask for it.

I’ll be online less. Over the past few months of slowly reducing my Facebook use, I’ve started to realize that there really isn’t that much I do online besides look at Facebook. I like the idea that when I’m off Facebook for good, I’ll have more time for other offline hobbies, like practicing my solo jazz dancing!

Wherever you go, there you are. I have often used Facebook as a form of digital escapism – picking up my phone and scrolling when a real-life conversation gets boring, or a work task gets demanding, or a social event gets overwhelming. I want to stop doing this and be more present in the work that I’m doing, and I think getting off Facebook is a good first step.

How will I keep swing dancing?

It’s a valid concern, for sure – almost all Lindy Hop events and scenes use Facebook as their primary mode of communication with their attendees. However, I’ve found a few workarounds that I think will work for me, especially if I implement them as I move to a new scene.

  • I’ll use Google, websites, and word-of-mouth to find out about dance events and workshops I want to visit.
  • SwingPlanIt has helped me stumble across some great events, and it’s becoming more mainstream for organizers to advertise there.
  • I can email events and organizers I want to work for, instead of Facebook messaging them.
  • Yehoodi is a great source for worldwide Lindy Hop news!
  • While I’m at an event, if organizers post a critical update on Facebook, friends who are on Facebook can help keep me in the loop. Organizers I am working with as a DJ will be fully notified ahead of time that I am only reachable by text or call, and I’ll keep my phone on me in case of emergencies. (“Quick, we need some Cab Calloway STAT!”)
  • The Lindy Blend gives organizers several options for contacting me, including my email, available on my about page, and the contact form on my contact page.

What will I do instead?

As a practicing minimalist, I’ve had to learn and re-learn the lesson that what you remove from your life is far less important than what you put into it. So, here’s what I’m planning to do with my newfound free time and distraction-free headspace:

  • Write more here on The Lindy Blend.
  • Search for great jazz music to add to my library and use when I DJ!
  • Practice yoga every day, which helps keep my hardworking dance body flexible and strong.
  • Meditate.
  • Write letters and notes to the people I love.
  • Text silly things to my friends like the goofball I am.
  • Video chat with all the dear folks I’m leaving behind in Michigan and keep up with the important things happening in their lives.
  • Throw myself into my new job – I have lots of new things to learn, including data programming and running an fMRI scanner, and I’ll need all the focus I can get!
  • Go for lots of walks and bike rides to explore Sacramento!

Leaving Facebook may not be the right decision for everyone

Facebook definitely makes life easier if you’re a swing dancer, that’s for sure. Bobby White at Swungover has a brief but interesting take on how technology has improved his life. And, obviously, there are the 2.19 billion monthly active users of Facebook, most of whom (I hope!) are finding some value in it.

I’m financially privileged to have my own online space with a .com URL that I pay for myself. Many people don’t have this kind of financial access to a personal website, and using Facebook for their career and personal purposes makes more sense for them. While I may not think social media is ultimately a very helpful tool, I know that a lot of people see it differently, and I think it’s a discussion worth having.

How racially inclusive is your scene?

The Frankie Manning Foundation just released this list of really helpful questions from Julia Loving for scene organizers, leaders, and teachers. I know that reading through this list was helpful and even a little convicting for me, and I hope it’s helpful to you too. I wanted to include the full list here for you to consider, and I have a few additional thoughts at the bottom.

  1. Do I actively recognize that Lindy Hop is a Black art form? Is that recognition and acceptance represented in the way that I run dance events, classes, and overall dance scene?
  2. Am I comfortable dealing with or discussing race matters? If not, am I in a partnership with someone else that is?
  3. Do I look for, consider, or hire qualified bands or orchestras that are led by or include Black musicians and singers?
  4. Do I look for, consider, or hire qualified Black instructors on all levels?
  5. Do I look for, consider, or hire qualified Black DJs for my events or to cover band breaks?
  6. Does my event’s attendance (instructors, bands, audience, dancers) reflect the diverse populations of the world? If not, do I have a plan in place to make my event more welcoming to people of diverse backgrounds?
  7. Does the way that Lindy Hop is danced in my community look and feel like the original?
  8. Do I want to gain knowledge and do I seek out understanding about the African American experience? What about the dance history?
  9. Do I hire staff that have been vetted for non-discriminatory practices in the scene?
  10. Do I invite constructive responses for policy and programs to address racial inequities within my events?
  11. Do I invite local dance communities of non-whites to events?
  12. Do I share resources with my community about the origins of the dance, Black history, biographies of the original dancers, jazz musicians, music collections, etc.?
  13. Do I encourage my students to take field trips to venues or historical sites that represent the African American history or experience, especially those cities that are rich with the history?
  14. Am I committed to the long-term message of Black history and recognition, not just when the topic is trending?
  15. Do I lead by example as a dance instructor by including history lessons as an integral part of my classes. For example; we all do the Shorty George but did you know that Shorty George was a Black man who danced at the Savoy Ballroom in Harlem? Etc.
  16. Do you invite lindy hoppers from earlier generations to participate and tell their history at your events? Ex: Mama Lou Parks Dancers, Harvest Moon Ball Competitors, and Savoy Dancers
  17. Do I pledge to welcome everyone regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identification, age, body type, physical ability, and mental ability?
  18. Do I encourage my students and fellow dancers to be open to dancing with everyone and to actively ask people of all kinds to dance? Especially those that might not get asked to dance very often? There should be no wallflowers!
  19. Do I encourage mentorships, trainings, or extra tutelage for any new Black dancers in my scene? Do you offer any financial sponsorship for African American students to your attend your events or participate in other events?
  20. Am I willing to accept and embrace change even though it may change how I originally experienced the Lindy Hop community?

Question 5, about considering and hiring Black DJs, is a great question. As a white DJ, I know that I need to make a more active effort to get to know Black DJs at events I work at, and then recommend those DJs to other scene leaders and organizers with whom I work. I don’t think the need for more diverse DJs means I need to step down in some way, but I do think it means I need to work just as hard to lift up and promote Black DJs as I do to promote myself.

I love question 15, about including history lessons in our classes when we teach. At my almost-all-white undergraduate institution, I often worked information about historical Black dancers and musicians into my lessons. I am doing my best to make this blog a resource for learning more about Black vintage musicians in particular. I hope that as you read along, you find information you can use when you teach to help your students and scene become more aware of the enormous debt we owe to Black jazz artists, past and present.

Question 17 is also excellent, particularly for its inclusion of mental ability in the list of characteristics that shouldn’t keep us from welcoming or dancing with someone. I hope to address this more in the future, but I have seen and heard about some pretty nasty things happening to dancers who experience autism and other differences in mental ability. If you have biases or fears about people with mental disabilities – and, culturally, most of us do – take time to educate yourself and get to know people with mental disabilities personally. The honest truth is, they’re just like the rest of us and want the same things we all want – to be loved, talked to, and asked to dance!

Thanks again to Julia Loving for creating these questions, the Frankie Manning Foundation for distributing them, and Bobby White at Swungover for posting about them, which was how I saw them originally. Julia Loving blogs at Big Girls Lindy Hop Too! and sells undergarments for Lindy Hoppers at LuckyLindysNYC on Etsy, which has shorts (the kind you might have seen flashing under someone’s skirt) in all kinds of patterns and fabrics – how fun! I might need to get a pair of the rainbow ones for Pride month!

Ann Arbor Friday Night Swing, June 1, 2018

For my last DJ gig before I leave Michigan to move to California, I went up to Ann Arbor and spent an evening with the dear friends I’ve come to know over the past few years.

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The first song in this set was actually the one I chose when the organizers decided, spur-of-the-moment, to do a farewell jam for me. As I noted in my last post, Maxine Sullivan does my favorite version of “Exactly Like You,” and it was so much fun to dance with all my friends to a song that I love.

I spent the rest of the set playing with songs that are new to my library, including some pieces I featured in my Lionel Hampton roundup – “Loose Wig” and “Royal Family.” I also tried out “Jacquet Bounce” and “Lean Baby” by Illinois Jacquet, which people seemed to like, and I got a great response when I played “Loch Lomond” by Maxine Sullivan. “Charlie Was A Sailor” by Lionel Hampton, at 192 BPM, got some balboa happening!

It’s sad to be leaving Michigan and all the wonderful dancers I know around the Midwest, but I’m looking forward to lots of new dancing adventures up and down the West Coast! Check in here to keep up with my travels, and if you’re an organizer on the West Coast looking for a DJ to add some delightful tunes to your event, get in touch!